If someone is doing something that would be expected in a relationship, meaning a realistic expectation, ask yourself, are these the type of people I want in my life? Some may not have been as supportive, but mean me well and are just too busy with their lives, that’s different. I won’t fire someone for that. But the other ones, they are people that drain us. We get angry and resentful. I call them psychic vampires (See blog on Psychic Vampirism). So ask yourself, are the people in your life supporting you? Are they the kind of people you want in your life? You may need to back away from some people. Maybe you’ll email rather than phone, and see them less. Some you will cut out completely, even family. You might visit your family on your terms. People who are worth being in your life will eventually adjust to you saying no to them to take care of yourself. They will resist at first. Give them a chance, but don’t wait too long. People can change. If you find yourself making excuses for someone, or are hoping they will be like they were when you first met (fake, not their true selves in most cases), then think long and hard about the relationship. Does this person build you up and encourage you to be the best you can be, or bring you down? So put energy and time (two precious resources many of us lack these days) into relationships that give back and avoid the psychic vampires or cut them out if you can.